The 3C’s of life: Choices, Chances, Changes.
You have to make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.
This is a very simple mantra but true.
Most humans, including myself, don’t like change, that’s why so many people remain exactly where they have been for the last 10 years of their lives. They are stuck in jobs they hate, relationships that are throttling them, careers that have no future prospects. They are afraid to step out of their self-proclaimed ‘safe box’.
They settle into and accept these situations because of fear. Fear of the unknown. They justify their actions by making excuses or comparing themselves to those that are doing far worse than they are.
Why do people settle?
What does it mean when people settle out of court?
People settle out of court for various reasons like convenience, to save time, or to avoid confrontation. However, the main reason is usually the result of one of the partners being unsure of the outcome, then settles. Most of us “settle” in life because it’s easier and requires no effort on our part to change. This is more so with weight loss than most things. We get comfortable with the good that goes with being overweight; namely:
- It’s easy. It requires no effort
- It’s convenient. We don’t have to think of what to eat next.
- It requires no effort. We blame our genes or lack of time or the busy-ness of our lives.
Have you made the decision to become serious about your life? Yes or no?
BEHAVIOUR NEVER LIES
This will be clearly demonstrated by your behavior. Behavior never lies. The sad thing is that most people take a very casual and easy approach to life, and have the audacity to make excuses when things don’t go their way. These people are often delusional in thinking that they will get a better life than what they are working for.
In life you only get what you work for. For example, you only become rich when you decide to become rich, by developing a plan and executing that plan consistently.
You will get into great shape only when you make a decision to get into shape. Should you not decide to act, you will continue to suffer the consequences of obesity like high BP, diabetes or ill-fitting clothing etc.
Most of us depend on willpower and discipline to succeed in whichever areas of our lives we want to thrive in. These two limited resources are overrated when they have to be called on repeatedly.
Success leaves clues. The best way to succeed in your area of choice is to either to mimic people that have excelled in that particular field, or better still, have them as mentors.
HABITS OR GOALS?
You already have a ton of good habits that you have cultivated over time. You don’t think twice about putting on a seatbelt when you get into your car, neither do you have to be reminded to lock your car or apartment door when you leave. Nobody reminds you to brush your teeth in the morning. All these habits have become automated responses. The trick is to turn actions like daily exercise, meditation and healthy eating, amongst many others, into a habit.
Do you focus on goals or habits?
Goals are excellent. Combined with a clear vision of where you want to be, goals help you identify the direction in which you should be moving.
If you don’t have direction and goals in life, you will probably have some measure of success, but you most likely won’t become incredibly successful since you have no clear objective.
If your focus is on unrealistic goals like getting a 6 pack or building a billion rand business, you might end up doing more dreaming than taking action since the goals are too distant making them hard to attain.
To attain goals, it is essential to focus on the journey (habit) rather than the destination (goal).
The answer to this question, “What do I need to do on a daily basis to get healthy and have more energy?”
What’s stopping you from changing habits?
Most people know the consequences associated with obesity. Many of these people are successful in other areas of their lives. Every morning they promise themselves, “today is the day I’m going to start eating better and do some exercising.” But by 8am they have already succumbed to a slice of cheese cake. Does this make them bi-polar or do they have a split personality?
5 Ways to build habits that last:
1. Be specific
Most people jump onto the weight loss wagon without any thought or planning. Be clear on exactly how much weight you want to lose, body fat %, how much muscle you want to build, and in what time frame.
2. If you not assessing you are guessing.
If you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it. How do you know if you making progress, and how do you know if what you are doing is working or not?
3. Accountability Partner
Having another person hold you accountable is a great way to get into, and stay in shape. As busy as people are today, we often need a little nudge, to be more proactive. This accountability is one of the primary reasons why people spend money on personal trainers or commit to group classes and activities.
4. Use physical triggers
Pack your gym bag at night. This saves you time in the morning and is a constant reminder that you need to exercise. Have your meals pre-packed and have them in your cooler box in a convenient place, eg. Under or on top of your desk
5. Create Systems
Have a clear way of doing things that automatically becomes a habit. Set a specific time aside for training. Have a timer set to remind you it’s time for a meal or snack. Let the people around you know you are endeavoring to make lifestyle changes. Ask them not to tempt you, as you are mentally not strong enough to say no.
Too much credit is given to human as being rational beings. The truth is that we are emotional beings able to rationalize anything we do. We can rationalize eating that cheese cake, not going to gym, putting on 5kg a year. We are not rational beings with emotions, we are emotional beings capable of rationalizing anything.